Supporting Families in Crisis: Potentially Dangerous Situation Taken from Training Guides for the Head Start Learning Community
Programmed Learning Forms Handbook Staff
Crisis situations may pose some degree of risk to the safety of family members and staff. Since erratic, unpredictable behaviors can be characteristic of people in crisis, a crisis presents some risk to the safety of those involved in the situation. The potential for physical harm exists in any emotionally charged crisis situation; that potential should never be overlooked or discounted by staff.
Staff skills in handling a potentially dangerous situations shape intervention decisions. Sometimes, staff find themselves faced with, or caught up in, a family situation that is too complex or too dangerous for them to address directly. At such time, it is critical for staff to recognize the situation is beyond their intervention abilities and to discuss alternatives with their supervisor.
Background Information
With violence and other dangers escalating in the streets, in the workplace, and the home, the issue of family and staff safety is one of mounting concern today. This module examines the issue of staff and family safety at a number of levels: risk management, the protection of family members, staff self-protection strategies, and program safety measures. This module prepares staff to assess fight and flight defenses and provides strategies for dealing with threatening behaviors.
Risk Assessment in Crisis Situations
Prevention is the first line of defense against behaviors that place staff in danger. Prevention begins with education and program policies designed to prepare staff for dangerous encounters. All staff must be alert to signs of impending danger, know ways to avoid becoming entangled in a dangerous situation, and know how to escape from a threatening or violent person.
Crisis or emotionally charged situations may pose some risk to the safety of families and staff. To protect family members, as well as themselves, staff must be alert to danger or risk. First, be attentive to the psychological effects of a crisis. If a family exhibits any psychological effects, such as a bout of severe depression, a parent's refusal to take prescribed medication for an emotional disorder, impulsive behavior, or difficulty thinking clearly, there is reason to proceed cautiously. The crisis state is likely to intensify a family's past difficulties and increase current risks.
Second, the crisis itself may pose danger to family members or to staff. For example, a crisis brought on by spouse abuse, gang activity, unsafe living conditions, or a drug overdose suggests that children's safety may be at stake. There are also risks to the safety of adult family members in such situations, as well as to the safety of anyone who attempts to intervene.
Third, because a crisis can have a harmful impact on family members and family functioning, there is always some potential for danger. For example, overwhelming anxiety may undermine a parent's ability to exercise self-control when a child misbehaves, to complete routine parenting tasks, or to curtail hostile feelings toward those seen as causing the crisis. If a state of crisis continues without supportive intervention, there are additional risks. Family members may attempt to gain control over their anxiety through an array of destructive behaviors that increase the risks to everyone involved.
While the risks to the safety of families and staff cannot be predicted with absolute certainty, the risks are lessened when staff are aware of the danger signs. The Danger Assessment Checklist is designed to alert staff to family behaviors and situations that suggest safety measures are called for.
Situations:
□ Does the family have a history of child abuse/neglect or other forms of family violence?
□ Is there any information to suggest a family member is (or may be) emotionally unstable?
□ Is there any information regarding the family's access to guns or other weapons?
□ Does the family live in an extremely isolated location? In a dangerous neighborhood?
□ Does the family keep any animals in the home or yard?
□ Does the home environment appear unsafe for the child(ren) due to deteriorating physical conditions or lack of other basic necessities?
□ Are there any indicators to suggest the family may flee from the home/community? A parent may flee with a child(ren)?
□ Do you sense that the family situation is unsafe? Are your instincts signalling danger?
Behaviors:
□ Is violence or aggressive behavior exhibited by family, friends, and/or relatives?
□ Is substance abuse or drug dealing an issue in the family?
□ Has an adult family member ever shown sharp mood swings or other types of volatile behavior?
□ Has an adult family member ever made verbal threats, screamed, or cursed at you? Other Head Start staff? Other persons in authority?
□ Has an adult family member ever caused property damage to home or elsewhere during an outburst of anger?
□ Has an adult family member every physically assaulted anyone?
□ Has an adult family member ever been arrested for physical assault, disorderly conduct, or property damage?
□ Is any family member threatening to harm himself/herself or someone else?
□ Have there been any reports of reckless driving on the part of family members?
□ Has a family member ever talked about committing a violent act?
□ Has a family member ever expressed fears or concerns about losing control, taking a drug overdose, or harming someone?
□ Do a family member's words or actions suggest being out of touch with reality? Being suicidal? Being severely depressed?
□ During a conversation with family members, have you noticed any bodily signs of escalating aggression such as changes in skin color, breathing patterns, or posture?
□ During conversations with family members, have you noticed a marked increase in angry, brooding, or sullen behavior; irritability; verbal outbursts; pacing; restlessness; agitation; or testing limits?
□ Have the behaviors of any family member ever frightened you?
It is equally important for staff to recognize "fight" and "flight" behavior defenses. Fight and flight behaviors are natural ways people defend themselves and try to gain control over stressful situations. Fight defenses are spurred by the need to be the "winner" or to "out-do" someone else. Flight defenses are used to avoid painful feelings or situations. Although these two defenses are commonly seen in people in stressful or crisis situations, the behaviors that characterize them can be quite difficult to deal with. Some guidelines include:
Guidelines for Fight Behaviors
Presenting yourself as being a calm, relaxed, and confident "helper" - someone who is in control of himself/herself and can keep the situation from getting out of control.
Speak in a low tone of voice.
Maintain a matter-of-fact attitude, don't appear bossy, demanding, threatening, lecturing, accusing, or brusque.
Suggest that everyone sit down to talk.
Make sure you explain you role clearly, since some fight behaviors may be due to confusion about your intentions.
Give the person "space" by keeping a distance of about three feet, breaking eye contact, and respecting silence.
Recognize upset/angry/resentful feelings and give the person time to vent and de-stress.
Stay in tune with your non-verbal messages, unknowingly, you may be encouraging the fight behaviors by acting cold and detached, tense, agitated, angry or afraid.
Let the person know there are acceptable escape routes for changing or ending the discussion. ("I hear how angry you are right now. Do you think it would be better for you if we took a short break or talked at another time?")
Use "I" messages to present positive alternatives and to define the limits. ("I think there are a number of ways Head Start could help your family. I'd like to tell you about them and hear what you think sounds best.")
Suggest that you get off to a fresh start together by talking about other topics, such as family support resources.
Point out and reinforce the strengths in the family and individual family members.
Guidelines for Flight Behaviors
Be as supportive as possible. Make positive statements about the family's strengths, suggest alternatives for resolving the crisis, let the person know you will stick by him or her until the end of the crisis.
Encourage the expression of painful emotions. ("I like to hear more about how you're feeling right now ... I understand how angry/sad you are, I would feel the same way.")
Repeat key questions or ideas several times to keep the conversation focused on the issues at hand.
Explain the consequences of the flight behaviors honestly and directly. ("I think I can help your family, if you give me a chance." "I have to hear what you want to do about this in order to help.")
Let the person know you are confident about his/her ability to overcome the crisis. Point out success, strengths, and resources, as well as constructive steps that can be taken now.
Use reframing to shift a person's views about life events from the negative to the positive.
Help the person feel in control of like by encouraging decision making. ("You and I could go to the food stamp office together, or you could go by yourself. Which sounds better to you?")
Point out the person's options for handling the situation. ("Since you want to stop drinking, you could join Alcoholics Anonymous or get counseling at the substance abuse treatment center.")
Let the person know you believe he/she is important, deserving, and capable. ("Anyone would have a hard time handling this; you'll be able to get everything straightened out with the resources available to your family.")
Test Questions:
Protection of Family Members
When risk assessment raises staff concern about the safety of family members, staff must take protective steps. The steps may range from consulting with supervisors about how to address the safety concerns directly (e.g., helping the family to acquire food or other life-sustaining resources) to requesting emergency intervention from community agencies (e.g., child protective services, law enforcement, paramedics). However, for the steps to be viable alternatives, they require groundwork at program management and supervisory levels.
A comprehensive Head Start approach to family safety includes:
A comprehensive set of safety measures allows staff to be more effective in their work with families. Action must be taken at management, supervisory, and direct service levels to make family and worker safety a priority. An appropriate staff response in a dangerous situation is crucial to ensure personal and family safety. In a dangerous situation, staff should not work in isolation. Head Start resources, as well as resources in the broader community, must be available to assist staff whenever risky situations arise.
Staff Self-Protective Strategies
Physical and verbal assaults against helping professionals are not a new or a rare phenomenon. Professional literature suggests four major themes associated with worker safety:
Activities in this module are intended to bring worker safety issues to the forefront in local Head Start programs. While some safety precautions require action at the program level, there are a number of self-protective measures staff can implement on their own. These include:
Program Measures Aimed at Staff Safety
Worker safety requires more than self-protective measures; to make worker safety a reality, local Head Start programs must adopt additional measures. Program measures aimed at staff safety include:
Help from supervisors and co-workers to deal with feelings stirred by a dangerous situation is an essential program component. Concern must be shown for staff who experience the pain and trauma of an assault or intimidating threat. Ways that management can show sensitivity to the needs of staff include providing available information on medical and therapeutic resources available to help staff recover from the trauma, arranging for a buddy to accompany a victimized worker on field visits, and establishing program provisions that give a victimized worker immediate access to a trained trauma counselor.